Which one to go?

I am invited to 2 wedding dinners which clash on the same day. One is my classmate and the other is my colleague. So which one should I go?

I decided to attend my colleague's one. I face her everyday. If I don't go, I'll feel awkward when I see her during work.

Out of courtesy, I left a message with my classmate, apologising for my absence, and I'll meet her one of these days to give her a wedding gift. 人没到，红包到总可以了吧？

And guess what she wrote?

"Aiyoh, but we are long time fren leh. So upset to get such news."

UPSET?!?!? I lagi upset that she never bother to call me out for coffee when she has my contact number all this while.

Anyway, I jokingly replied that I had to attend my colleague's one as she's my paymaster. My bonus depends on her! And then she wrote back, saying, "Your presence at my wedding is important as it signifies the years of friendship since we have in primary and secondary school. But what to do, since I am not the one giving you pay and bonus....."

Woah, win liao lor. Say me until like that. Too bad I cannot split myself into two and attend both the weddings leh.

I did feel bad for a while, but I still decided to go ahead with my original decision. I have not seen my classmate for the past 14 years, and I wasn't around to witness the significant events of her life since we left school, so how important a friend can I be?

I am sure some of you might encounter this same situation before. Friends who disappear out of your life for a long time will somehow suddenly call you (and you wonder how the hell did he get your contact number) and invite you to attend their wedding. WTF lor? No wedding, no friend lar? Am I there just to add up the figures for a 50-table banquet? Tsk tsk....

If I ever have a chance to hold my own, maybe I'll do the same thing too. But I doubt so very much, as I always prefer a more intimate and uncrowded wedding reception with my family and close friends. Big gatherings are definitely out for me. Besides, our savings are only enough to throw a 5-table banquet !

(Side note: I received a call from the personal assistant of Minister Lim Swee Say this morning, informing me that Mr Lim wants to see me at his office on Monday. I am very puzzled by his invitation. Even my colleagues jokingly said that throughout their 30 years of service, no minister ever invite them before. OMG, what did I do?)

Comments

[smiles]

i agree.. jus go to your colleague's wedding. i have such friends too. and ur fren shouldn't blackmail u emotionally.

dun worry about the minister la. i'm sure it's nothing bad.

[crystallime]

i normally do not attend old classmates' weddings if they do not keep in contact with me through the years. i do not like to be anybody's "decoration" at the wedding. so i think your decision is right.

hey! maybe mr lim swee say wants to comment you on your love for your job and the environment! he probably reads your blog!

[Lexus]

Maybe you can split yourself into 2... :P Anyway not your fault. When is the wedding held? So auspicious.

I think Mr Lim Swee Say want to give you award. For not doing your job before the dengue outbreak... HAHAHAA!!! Ok lah. Thumbs up for the great work now :)

[Jacinta]

Yeah, I think you made the right decision anyway. ;)

[lucy]

Ku: some friends, especially those who appear suddenly after years of silence, could be nostalgic for past times. Stick with your decision to go to your colleague's dinner. It's a good & sensible one.

As for your invite to see minister, I am sure it's something good. Can feel it in my bones...

[Joyce]

Well, just go to the one who you are more close to..you don't need to care what they said because the one you choose not to go I think she isn't the one you are so close with...

[GhOsT]

Maybe Mr. Lim wanna make you a poster gal or something!!!

By the way, ask him to visit my blog too.......

Haha.....

[Jumpcut]

I think you made the right decision. Your classmate's comments seem designed to make you feel bad. What kind of a friend is that? You can go to your colleague's affair with a clear conscience.

[bohemianlisa]

Yeah, maybe Mr Lim reads your blog and found out all the good work you did & wants to make you a poster gal, har? :-)

[Danz]

think Mr Lim read ur blog and saw u post the mozzies pics...heheehee...

[Qiu]

I think you make a right choice to go to the right wedding dinner. Maybe the Minister and your paymaster is reading your blog by now.

Or maybe your old friend who invite you for dinner might be unhappy while reading your blog?

[lizanoor]

i think mr lim wans 2 compliment how wonderful u look in that 1 second stint in tv. kekekeke ...

yes. i also wonder how come very, very long lost friends could actually get hold of our contact no when it comes 2 their wedding. when it was mine, i simply cant.

[Midnight]

Whatever decision you've made, both parties need to be more understanding as you can attend both's wedding dinner at the same time. PERIOD. CRYSTAL CLEAR

People got upset without thinking. I guess this is the reason why there are many angry pple around.

[benhoo]

Minister see you?!!?
Gosh! Do I sense a promotion?!?! Maybe he is a fan of yours.. haha :P

[lancerlord]

Go for the colleague one. Same reason as yours. Face colleagues everyday.

Mr Lim need some tips on blogging. Just go and see how. I always like the way he speak. Stand out from the rest of the ministers. :)

[Kinky Nomadess]

i am just so interested in knowing what the minister wanna talk to u about!

[bohemianlisa]

And if Mr Lim doesn't read your blog, take a picture with him and post it on your blog. Then tell him to read it, k?

[kucinta]

Smiles: yes, that's the word! blackmail!

me not worrying abt the minister thingie, just curious :)

Crystallime: Decorations?!?! *LMAO* wat an appropriate term :/

i dun think mr lim read my blog! and i hope not too!!!

Lexus: *bonk Lexus's head* how can u dig at me!

the wedding's in Nov!

Jacinta: hope so!

Lucy: nostalgic, can always ask me out for kopi, if i have her number earlier, i'll definitely would :)

i am sure minister lim is a nice guy to talk to. i saw him on tv, and he's our former env minister too :)

Joyce: yeaps, i am closer to the colleague than the classmate. hope my decision doesn't annoy anybody!

Ghost: let's see how's monday outcome, and he onz abt blogs, i'll definitely recommend yours!

Jumpcut: yaaaa, and she did make me feel very bad, and i even wanted to go to hers instead of my colleague's...

Bohemianlisa: u think so ah? i dun tink ministers got so much free time to surf blogs leh...lol. if i can take pic with him, i will try!! after all, i seldom have chance to be so close to a minister!!

Danz: hahaha, very low possibility la...

Qiu: i dun think the minister, my colleague and my classmate read my blog! very few personal frens know i keep one. hehe.

Lizanoor: ya lor!! how come they got our numbers? telephone directory??? cannot be wat...or maybe thru our old classmates...

Midnight: i am also one of those who gets angry easily. hehehe...

Benhoo: promotion?!?! what did i do again? for me picking rubbish at ponggol ah?LOL....let's wait and find out. monday is the day!

Lancerlord: I like him too! he used to be our env minister. when i saw him on tv, he appear very cinna/hokkien pai one, talk to him feels like talking to old friend :)

Kinky Nomadess: pray for me, jude! hope i dun make a fool of myself tt day...

[annie]

I think you have made the right desicion, it is hard to believe that a friend who has been out of touch for 14 yrs and still invites you to her wedding, if I were you, I could have not even reminded of who was who. Plus,给红包其实已经真的很给面子了;-)

[qiu]

As Annie said i guess they want big ang bao to cover their wedding cost lol... =Z

[bahgae]

Life is full of dilemmas, once a decision is made, it is better not to look back... don't waste too much emotion for this... and if u get to see Mr Lim Swee say help me say HI :)

[Midnight]

You should be ok with Minister Lim. He was a fun guy when I worked in Informatin Technology Institute (research arm of National Computer Board) and he was the director.

[Prince]

Just being curious. Do let us know abt the meeting with the minister :-)
hahahaha such a nosy creature I am .............

[kucinta]

Annie: yeah, i cant rem most of their names already, maybe see the face can recall a bit...

Qiu: the couple can always replace my seat to another person wat...

Bahgae: 我是好马不吃回头草! lol...

Midnight: wow! u work with minister lim swee say b4!!! ai say man.... any tips to share with me how to handle him? lol...

Prince: i'll definitely blog abt my meeting with minister lim! once in a lifetime leh...

[The Hungry Bunny]

He read your blog? *grin* im just kidding can?!

[Midnight]

er... I did not work with him directly though. You need not do much to *handle* him. Just be yourself. And, give honest answer i.e. no bullshit.

I wonder why is he seeing you.
Maybe he loves your flogger.

[kucinta]

Hungry Bunny: dun scare me!!

Midnight: why everyone says he read my blog? minister got so much time free to read blogs meh? keke..